You know you’re dancing when you have one of these thoughts

• “I’m too different (old, young, gay, straight, fat, thin, poor, rich, black, white) to go.” Yup. There’s no excuse too trivial to be used as the reason you can’t change. But you’ll only be cheating yourself.

• “That’s too much money. I’d rather buy toys or pay the rent.” That’s right. It does cost ($650 – $985 in Australia). The more important question may be, What is your future worth? Many men who attend the New Warrior Training Adventure go forward with more financial success and fulfillment. You have the opportunity to make a quantum leap, but it will cost (and more than just money!). The vast majority of men who have gone before you think the price well worth it.If it’s any consolation, almost every man who staffs an NWTA also pays for the honour of staffing. And no person involved in the ManKind Project at any level is getting rich from your experience. We’re a not for profit organisation. Individual communities operate at break-even, sometimes making enough to pay for minimal administration. Nearly all the men you will meet in MKP are volunteers.

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• “Wouldn’t it be possible to read a book or magazine article and get to the same place?” No. The training is a leaning-experience, not a set of ideas. Sorry, you’ll need to show up, and not just with your brain. You should pack your body, your passion, and your soul, too.

• “I’ll do that someday-next year, next millennium. Only now I’m not quite ready. I need to. . . (insert best-sounding excuse here).” One of the most common things men say after they go through the training is, “What was I doing for the last twenty years?” The best time to do the training adventure? Right now.

• “I’m in therapy, so I don’t really need this.” Or “I’m not in therapy, so I’m not prepared for this.” Nice try, both of you.The NWTA is a peer-support educational environment, and while it is not therapy, it does require enough emotional stability from participants to be able to know if they’re feeling stuck. For participants to benefit from the experience they must have a desire to change self-defeating behaviors and perceptions.We strongly recommend that men in therapy talk to their therapist before registering, and for those in recovery programs to have at least 6 months clean & sober. Many mental health care professionals have suggested the NWTA to their clients who have demonstrated the commitment to personal growth and responsibility for their well-being.The NWTA and its follow-up support groups can be a valuable adjunct to working with a counseling professional but it should not be considered a replacement. Get the help you need, and we’ll be here when you’re ready.

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• “Is this some sort of pyramid scam with a lot of people getting rich?” The Mankind Project is a non-profit organization. The vast majority of those who staff a training pay money themselves for the privilege of staffing, and devote huge chunks of time and energy to make the training happen. The training leaders get paid, but not much. If people get rich from the trainings, the enrichment has nothing to do with money.

• “I know how these workshops go: You get a little insight, a little warm-and-fuzzy bonding, then you go back to your life and do business as usual. Pretty soon you ask, remind me-what exactly did I get out of that?” Actually, that’s probably right, if the training were the only thing a man did. The heart of the Mankind Project is the I-Groups which start after the training, composed of those who have finished a weekend. These usually meet weekly, and (here’s the good news) after 6-8 weeks of learning the ropes with a facilitator, they run on their own with no cost to the members.

• “This is a bunch of navel-gazing men who have a good experience together, gain some insight into themselves, then resume destroying the planet and terrorizing their families without making a real difference.” A key part of MKP is action in the world-men define themselves as men of service. There are many areas of possible service-working with kids, building a more compassionate company, saving the planet, working in prisons. Even being present with your family is a kind of service.

• “Hold it! This sounds like some sort of religious cult. I already have a religion, thank you.” Or “I can’t stand religion, so count me out.” Men from all major religions are currently active in the MKP-Jesuits, orthodox Jews, Muslims, and Protestant Christians. Also, many are involved who see themselves as non-religious.